There is a saying: “In essentials, unity; in non-essentials, liberty; in all things, love.” Keeping this in mind, we should extend liberty and love to one another, allowing for growth in faith. The important question is not about the action itself but rather the attitude of the heart. Why do we do what we do?

I recently fasted with a friend for the sake of a family member and felt compelled to explain that fasting is not a magical incantation or a work to earn favor; rather, it serves as a reminder of our dependence on the Lord for strength and provision in our lives. The purpose of the fast was to draw closer to the Lord, to pray, and to struggle with the pains of hunger while seeking God for strength and remembering where our strength comes from in all areas of struggle (James 4:8).

The point is that we can often approach our actions with the attitude of, “If I do this, God will do that.” However, God is not obligated to us. He gives freely, without obligation. Unlike the gods of the nations who can be appeased or bribed, the true God is not swayed by our works.

Now, If someone chooses to fast or celebrate a holiday in honor of the Lord, even though it is not necessary, and I look down on them for their choice, I am just as guilty as someone appeasing a god. In doing so, I consider myself greater than my brother and view him as foolish for his actions. I mistakenly believe that I know better and that God thinks of me as superior.

The issue always comes back to the heart. If a person is doing what they do unto the Lord and not for personal gain, who am I to judge their actions or look down on them (1 Corinthians 10:31)? We are called to sharpen one another so that we may mature in our faith, but that sharpening must come with an attitude of love, not pride. Our mission is to build one another up (Proverbs 27:17, Ephesians 4:13, 1 Thessalonians 5:11).

If we continue to be critical of one another over non-essential matters, we lose sight of the essential, the message of the cross and only create stumbling blocks in growth and maturity. So, how are you living— for your glory or for the glory of God?

Lord, that we would think soberly of ourselves and live for your glory.